Tag: quietly

What’s with that addiction!

I had a hard time coming out of FB. I was not sharing my life events there; however, looking at all the perfectly aligned smiling faces made me hollow and sad. Even then, i used to keep looking. It took time for me to come out of that addiction.

Some post their daily life events on social media and that makes them happy. They might be in a competition to show that they are happier than others. Perhaps they are under the impression that being the best would make them happiest.

The problem here is when one post turns in their favour, they are already thinking about the next post wherein they have to show that they are happiest.

That becomes vicious cycle, like an addict. If their partner/ friends could take time out to explain things to them patiently (might be several discussions) defining happiness, with time things might change.

Good luck!

Why are Menstruating Women Termed Impure!

During menstruation, a lady’s body normally discharges blood from the uterus. This cycle stays for an average 6-7 days each month. During this period, she is not allowed near holy places. Reason being she is termed impure.

The cleansing phase.

Ironically, as per logic, this cycle makes her very pure — far from being impure. Men don’t have this cleaning phase.

So during her menstrual cycle if she enters a temple (as per south Indian tradition), the energy present inside the temple moves to the purest place, i.e. into her body, and stays there. When the energy moves to this pure place, i.e. her body, positive vibrations in that particular temple shifts. To restore that energy, tantrik and other high priests have to purify the temple.

This is also the reason why, in south India, new born babies are not allowed inside temples. The energy shift happens.

You might observe that, during menstruation, if a lady touches the Tulsi plant (a holy plant), the plant slowly dries out or dies because of the energy shift.

To avoid this commotion, the easiest way was to put menstruating ladies in bad light.

During my grandmother’s time, they were made to live in a separate room, cook by themselves, not talk with anyone, avoid looking at anyone and made to feel inferior. In some parts of north & south India, this cruel process is still followed.

Times have greatly improved. I used to feel angry during my 20s at women being denied entry into temples (women in other faiths had no such rules). It was then that I started reading and understood the logic.

Why have Space After Breakup!

After a relationship turns sour and divorce/breakup happens, it is normal to suddenly realise a void and try to fill it as soon as possible.

A space helps us to gather the broken pieces of our life and understand what we want in our life and the direction we need to take.

In that emotional volatile state, we might end up making errors by choosing another partner asap because our heart is not in a position to handle that void.

There comes a moment when we realise the error we made. That time, talk to your crush/boyfriend and assert a space; it could be a temporary space. This space/ phase is where a lot of contemplation happens; where one gathers their broken pieces. It is good.

Only after self contemplation do we get a clear picture of what we want in life and understand our priorities.

Let Your Water be Calm

Being self-aware is important. Not everyone knows who they really are. Knowing yourself is in itself an achievement.

Lost my Way…

I remember an incident from my adolescence.

My parents used to all me ‘an idiot’ or sometimes ‘a fool’ (even infront of guests). Hurt & humiliated and with an anger bubbling inside me, i would go lengths to prove that i am not an idiot or a fool.

Still my tagline never disappeared. My reactions graduated though.

Why must i prove to anyone that i am good?

One day, i read somewhere a few lines on how everyone is unique in their own way, everyone has their own purpose, no one needs to be ashamed of oneself and most importantly, ‘you don’t have to run anywhere to become someone else’.

That got me thinking…

Why do i have to prove it to anybody, be it my parents even, that i are good!!

Picture it this way: people are standing in the ditch and calling me names and i are trying to go down to the ditch (their level) and prove myself… why?

Wise Never Prove

I changed my perspective (it was not easy; practise made it perfect).

Since i held respect for my parents, i did my duty towards them and did’t let their comments cause turbulence in me… just did my duties towards them quietly.

If anyone else would hurt me, i simply moved away quietly from their life for my peace.

I let my water stay without ripples.